Well, I'm not excusing domestic violence as it relates to the NFL player who punched his now wife, Janay Rice, on camera. But don't these women know ahead of time that he's an abusive asshole? Abusers aren't nice people afterall. He probably did display narcisstic traits long before the relationship started. People like that never change so its up to the victim to get away from the abuser. And for good grief don't bring children into an abusive situation.